It’s the day after Thanksgiving. Black Friday, as many call it. And I can’t help but pondering this idea of thankfulness just a little bit more. Today I was thinking about how easy it is to count someone else’s blessings. We do it all the time, don’t we? We see someone else and compare ourselves. Always figuring out where we rank with those around us.
One of the greatest problems with this is that when you count someone else’s blessings, it is often impossible to count their heartaches. Because blessings can be so external, but heartache is, well, of the heart – it is private.
Here are a few real life examples from women I have known:
– the woman who is beautiful, married to a good-looking man and successful on their church staff, but who has miscarried multiple times
– the woman who is wealthy, has adorable children, and a quick laugh, but whose husband refuses her in bed
– the woman who has the perfect hair and body, a great husband, and the platform to speak to others, but whose parents are undergoing a heart-wrenching marital situation
If you were to meet any of these women today, you would only see the things in their life that are happy. You would see the success. The beauty. The wealth. You would not see the heartache, the tears, the brokeness.
Today I know there are many of you who are in challenging marriages. I know there are many who wish things were different in your own lives. You often look at others and see the happy things, the things we count as our blessings. I am sure you have heard the quote that says, “Be kind – for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” You may be one of those ones in a hard battle. But I urge you not to compare. Because comparision is so close to coveting. And when we covet someone else’s life, or husband, or marriage, or children, or wealth – we tell God that ours is not enough. We say that He is not good enough. Not wise enough. Not sovereign enough.
I am praying for you today. Praying you would have His eyes to see how many blessings you have, indeed. Praying for a humble heart that would not compare your lot in life to others. Please pray for me too. This post came out of my own struggles today – comparing my situation and events to others, and wishing. I am on my own journey of gratitude. So pray for me too.