Good morning, amazing friends & sisters. Although we are already a week into January, this month is such a joy for me because it is the month of new beginnings. There is so much life attached to January as I look ahead into the new year and ask God what His plans are for me, and as I submit to Him some of the dreams and desires of my heart. This year is extra special for me because, well, I have you. You incredible women that are becoming such a dear part of my life. This year I am starting out with the blessing of feeling that I belong. Finally, after so many years, I belong. I am not alone in my higher drive. I am not strange, or broken. So thank you for being one of the best parts of the start of 2013.
I wanted to spend a few minutes writing to you all about the joy of goal-making and journaling. Do you write? And I mean, of course, for an audience of two. You and your Father. I hope you do – and if you don’t, I want to encourage you to start this year. Write however is appropriate for you. Bullet points. Poetry. Long prose. Doodle pictures out to the side, or simply sketch a scene that reflects what you are experiencing. Write prayers, write daily hopes, write out your feelings in long and word-filled paragraphs. Or, as one of the greatest ways to refocus your heart – write out your gratitude.
Journaling is such a powerful tool to help us see where we are. And it doesn’t have to be pretty. Just because someone else’s thoughts were put down in nice enough words to be printed once they died doesn’t mean yours have to. In fact, I recently told my husband I would like to burn large portions of my journals. Because they are places where I pour out my hurts and anger. They are not life-giving to anyone else, and I certainly wouldn’t want my children to ever read them. They are the most honest part of my worst places, and they are for God alone.
As you start this new year, spend some time journaling about your hopes, dreams, and prayers for the new year. Journal about your goals, and what you pray the Lord accomplishes. Some of your desires may border on the miraculous, and be something you simply continue to pray towards. Some of your goals may be small and possible – and require nothing but honest work to achieve. But whatever they are, let your heart write down the vision, and run with it.
I wanted to get a little vulnerable today and share a few of my own goals here. I hope this will be a place to stay accountable as well as see how God has shown up at year’s end.
So, here they are:
1. Pounce. At least once a week I plan to seductively but proactively pounce on my husband. I will take the responsibility to pursue him sexually, even if it is hard, or I don’t want to, or I am afraid of rejection. I will go low. And I won’t do this by subtle hints or veiled suggestions, I will make sure he understands “I want you. I need you. You don’t even need to do anything right now, just lay back and let me seduce you and entice you and arouse you.” And then I will do my darndest to do those things that I know are arousing to him, pleasing to him and help him find the “on” switch of his own sexual desire.
2. Pursue. At least twice a week I will shut off my phone, close my laptop and actively pursue my husband’s heart. This could mean writing a love letter, or purposefully finding a meal to fix that will bless his heart, or cleaning his office, or asking him about his heart and really listening. It means figuring out how to connect with my husband’s heart and doing it.
3. Make healthy choices. This will practically work out in two ways. 1) Eat clean 50% of the time (fruits and veggies, salads, etc.). 2) Move intentionally at least 3x a week. This could mean a workout, yoga session or a walk with my kids around the neighborhood.I could stand to lose about 15 lbs, but that honestly isn’t my ultimate goal. I want to be living a healthy lifestyle, and I think the rest of it will work itself out 🙂
4. Keep a gratitude journal. I have the tendency to be a negative person, and I have been meaning to do this for several years, and it simply needs to be done.
I plan on keeping all of you involved in how these goals are going this year with an end-of-the-month review. I would love to have you join me! Are there some personal or marriage goals that you have that you would like to share? You are welcome to join me every month in sharing with everyone how they are going. One encouragement is that you need to make goals that you can actually impact. For instance, I thought about making the “goal” of having sex a certain number of times each week, but that is a goal my husband & I have to both share. All of the goals I mentioned are ones I have a direct impact on.
Share away, sisters –